2:21pm

Good morning everyone - : )

I am trying to stay positive lately - I know it is the only way to keep afloat. There is this problem with me: I am too lazy, often, to want to put up a fight. I am, frankly, tired of keeping myself upright. Every time I fall, or find myself knocked down, I use it as a sort of a test: will anyone help me up? Please, someone help me up! just to come back to the same realization every time:

 

"no one is coming to save you

get up."

This post saved me once, and now it has remained a nagging voice in my head. Other notable factors in my earthly salvation have been the thought of doing it for Adrian, the goal to actually make friends, or at least to find out whatever the heck is wrong with me, and Black's song of irony & sarcasm "Wonderful Life".
I know there are reasons to live and I know that you feel better when you get up and do the life, but I hate it sometimes. I hate having to get up. I only get up sometimes because I can't take the guilt of laying down. I hate having responsibilities and I hate being such a problem for myself sometimes. I don't hate myself - but I think the person inside of me is someone a little different from the person holding it all in. I don't know. I guess I am just sad and homesick and a little bit annoyed that things didn't turn out the way that I wanted. 

5:45pm

Had a break in what I was doing - I guess that I have resentment towards my job and a nagging feeling that there is danger, or that I need to be on alert. That I need to keep myself in good health on all fronts and that I am not protected. A feeling that I want to turn back around and knowing that I can't and that I must push through with a job I don't like and this horrible feeling, just this horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach and all over everything- it isn't an easy thing to swallow. I just feel like I wake up and am completely alone - that there is nobody to talk to. At the end of the day you can cry yourself into an existential sleep and wake up feeling like you need to slog through the day. But on a morning where you have nothing to do and you just feel guilty and like the last remains of yourself - your dreggs and sediment - are all that's been gathered up of yourself to complete the difficult task of living everyday; and you have to muster that up every day. It feels like I am just tired, and I'm sure it isn't helping that I have somewhat lost my sense of smell, taste, and half my hearing for now, due to a sickness I just went through with about 10 days ago, so I don't have a good sense of anything that is going on around me. I am outside and it is sunny and breezy, but with a low temperature. I can't smell the grass. I don't feel present in this world around me. Maybe that's why I have a heightened interest in films and such these past days. Whenever I don't feel comfortable in where I am or who I am, I turn to others' lives. To someone else's story . . . I just can't feel anything right now and I don't feel present. I am sort of coming back to a sense of feeling, but when I do it's just because something reminds me of what I had, and what I want and that I am not where I want to be, even on my journey to a different place to land. And I feel anxiety, resentment, homesickness, and dread. I feel sadness and disappointment and frustration and extreme loneliness where I simply cannot find a single person to turn to. Things will smooth out, but I am numb. And regaining emotional capacity and feeling will not be pretty. 

But I bought a jacket from Kidsaint. For $384. Its title is "I am safe inside uncertainty". It is coming with a custom quote of Exodus 33:15: "If your presence will not go with me, do not carry us up from here." And I am feeling hopeful because of that. Everything will be okay. Someday, perhaps, someone will hold me like I am held in my maladaptive stories. Whether that is stories of Dale Cooperesque knights in shining armor, or the shows I watch to cope. As Kidsaint says, "we are all just trying to cope with being alive". 
Maybe if I could rid myself of all fear. Fear is the root of all evils. Fear is my enemy, and fear is what kills. We are afraid. We are all afraid. We are afraid of showing ourselves, of being responsible, of answering calls, and of failing. We are afraid of showing up, of being punished, of reliving experiences, of experiences that haven't happened, or of never experiencing something. We are afraid. I live inside myself because my own world inside my head and heart is the only coating for all the fear that I would be running through in the raw, otherwise. 

I miss my family, and I am only an hour away from them. But I carry a heavy weight in my heart and a lump of charcoal in my throat. 

I have also made a playlist, finally, that I have long had plans to make. I have had an idea for a playlist of devastation like this since who knows how long. What I believe to be one of the most, if not The Most, saddest songs in existence has just begun playing right now: Happy Birthday Jane, by The Enemy. It is a song checkpointing what was probably my deepest plunge into depression to date. My sister's name is Jane. And I just don't know that I have ever recovered from that time. I still think about it, and I am still trying to regain something that cannot be regained. I lost a part of myself then, and I guess that that is what I am still dealing with and looking in the face when I wake up - atop the ceiling lies the point blank and hardest truth. "You have no one to turn to". Because I wasn't chosen. Because I was left rejected on the sidewalk to deal with life myself. A choice to respect, but a choice I cry about to this day. So you see, in the midst of a job I don't like at all, a move I hadn't planned at all, and a general fear that I know is unnecessary, old wounds are easier put on hold. It's just that they don't cooperate at all when you wake up on a day off and stare at the ceiling talking to your dread like it's a den of lions that have their mouths taped shut, but are no less terrifying somehow.

Anyway, the show will go on, whether the dancers dance or not, whether the chorus girls remember their lines or stand empty, and whether the puppets are fresh and lively or limping across the stage. All I can do is put on a brave face - a brave face shows faith in something that has not happened yet. But it will come. It will come . . . 😔

Here's to rejection sensitivity disorder and all the other wonderful things in life. <3 <3

-SS

7:10am

Good Morning, Club!!

I'm so tired, it's insane. I haven't done anything besides move boxes, pack boxes, unpack boxes, clean things, buy things, watch a show, and yap. Which is actually kind of a lot of things.
I have to leave in about 30 minutes for my first training at my new job - not the fancy cafe or cozy space at my beloved Brewhalla, but a Caribou in the town where I now live, about an hour away from my hometown ( close in comparison ). Things are adjusting well, I am not greatly moved by all of this ( I suppose God puts me through things at the times He sees fit ), and I think the job will be pretty easy. Plus I will have more time for the things I love, and {hopefully} a better schedule. Not a better one, but a better kept one. 
But I haven't touched a page in weeks. I haven't read a book, I haven't written in my diary, I haven't jotted down a single poem besides shopping lists and some thoughts I finally had scraped up the other night. Don't even speak to me about my devotions. My adherence to the things necessary to my life in the long-term (and short term, too) has been non-existent. And I am the greatest slacker to my own routine. And Spotify is removing my favorite artists one by one. Okay just Cinerama among my favorites, so far, but what will become of everyone else on there when one by one, people are being removed? All of that is out of my control and therefore very distressing. My routine is within my control to a point and is also therefore very distressing. And I always write about all of these things because they are the cover soil, layered over roots of guilt and disappointment in myself for other things I cannot seem to remove from my life. For things I am in the process of removing. For things about myself that make no sense. What if I am just trying to categorize myself? What if I don't understand things at all? What if my faith makes no sense? What if I just misunderstand everything? What if I will be condemned because I blur things in my own mental vision for peace of mind . . . ? Because I can't be angry . . . because I can't heal . . .  because I can't get away or say no or convince anyone or shake the blame that I feel born with for something I can't name? Because I hate groups and I hate people because I always feel that they see something inherently bad in me - (except J and his family) - because I can't get back what I want and I lost something I just thought I had and I feel disgusted by a feeling from my past that isn't nostalgic but isn't traumatic . . . rather, somewhere in between.  A sense of loss I developed at 6 years old, a sense that I was grasping onto something I couldn't keep - would never be old enough to realize fully - and was proven right. A sense that I wasn't worthy. Condemned because I can't figure everything out and condemned because I would try to and condemned because I think I know a thing or two and because sometimes, in other places, I do feel angry. I am wrong for having a desire, for trying to satisfy it, for believing it can be satisfied, and I am wrong for doubting and being complacent. As David Copperfield describes the age old feeling: 

"What meals I had in silence and embarrassment, always feeling that there were a knife and fork too many, and those mine; an appetite too many, and that mine; a plate and chair too many, and those mine; a somebody too many, and that I!"
(...) "what answers I never got, to little observations that I rarely made; what a blank space I seemed, which everybody overlooked, and yet I was in everybody's way;"
David Copperfield, Chapter 8

I need to get up now, and get ready, but I am lucky to have had these moments to write. I will write next time, when hopefully, my room is clean and my life is somewhat in order. <3

-SS

11:31am

Good morning!!

The queen of oversharing is back, testing her limits on this fine morning of May 19th, 2026, Tuesday.
I watched a movie, on Sunday night, called Kramer vs. Kramer. I had thought about watching it when I was younger, perhaps 14, and decided not to because I didn't want to watch something without a happy ending. As I am getting older, though, I am realizing that some endings can be happy because the story was happy, and the ending doesn't necessarily destroy what happened before; hence, it is indirectly, a happy ending.
I am clawing free of a phone addiction (I had somewhat decreased this addiction over lent, but alas, when I rely on myself, all bad things come crawling back, because life always starts to drown me. Oh Peter, Peter . . .)

I snapped a guitar string last night. The same one I always do. The reason I have a little bag of just that string sitting for replacement. 
Two things that represent trauma symbolically: 
1. Burns. Have you ever noticed that when you burn yourself, and the scar feels heat (usually the newer it is), it makes you flinch? It hurts because you remember the evil pain. I think that when we say we are "scarred", it is usually more of sarcastic trauma, or one you suffered as a child and aren't as afraid of anymore (like something you saw on the internet), but I think "scarred", and as a sidenote, I think scar tissue should become more of a term that we use for emotional and mental wounds, such as Anthony Kedis was perhaps trying to do with the song 'Scar Tissue', but I think we should be using scarred as a term for true trauma. Not "true", that was a bad choice of words. All trauma is true if it is indeed trauma, and  no trauma should be discredited, but what I am trying to say without getting in the way of myself is that we should be using "scarred" as a choice for current trauma, instead of past trauma. I don't know if this is making any sense, and everything, especially language sometimes, is very layered. Anyway . . .
The second one is 
2. Snapped guitar strings. I was just talking about this, and I bring it up again because it happened just last night and my thoughts after it happened are, obviously, fresh in my memory. When you snap a guitar string it's not that the string is scary, or that the noise is particularly shrill (unless you snap the smallest one? I don't remember if I have done that or not). It's just so Loud. It's not bone shattering, it just resounds through your body like an unanticipated gong. It's not "oh no I woke everyone up with that noise", because most likely, it being a rather dull noise, no one heard it but you. It is more of an "I just woke up every piece inside my own body with that noise". And after it happens, you're more or less shook. I think the first times it happens you are more afraid and trembling, but the next couple of times you are shook but calm. It is always a small earthquake when you snap a guitar string and the remembrance of such a feeling and such a noise is very similar to mental or emotional trauma. But even that is not simply my point. I will reach my point in a moment. After snapping said string . . . ACTUALLY I don't remember my point. Maybe that simply was my point. I don't know anymore. I should pick up the guitar to see if I can remember. 

Well, my rambling about trauma is more or less finished for now, (I don't think I will ever stop talking about it though), and I am sitting on my bed. I have not changed out of my pajamas because I am cleaning my room, and while that technically has nothing to do with cleaning my room, it's just because they're easier to move around in. 
I saw a video of a man on Instagram rating the 8 books he's read this year (jealousy ensued because I am foolish), and they were 
1. The count of monte cristo
2. The brothers Karamazov 
3. war and peace
4. lonesome dove
5. rebecca
6. stoner
7. the hobbit
8. fellowship of the ring

And the way he felt about the count of monte cristo is how I feel about David Copperfield. It is "my whole heart". 

I am rambling on about nothing because I need to empty myself like a garbage can. I love talking, I love writing, I love rambling, but the thing about writing and why is infinitely better than talking is because it doesn't drain me like talking does. Talking has an emotional weight that it carries with it that deters me from talking. In fact it is very hard for me to talk. As a child my whole family knows that I would talk just to talk. But now I am a mute. Not really, but people say hi, they say good morning, they make a witty comment, and all I can do is make them uncomfortable or disinterested by smiling, nodding, laughing - I cannot open my mouth. Nothing comes out. I talk to people and I almost always say too much. And maybe they're not thinking as unkindly as I feel like they are - when people are talking to me, I am not thinking unkind things, but I am not voicing my opinions either and for that I feel just as much in the wrong as if I was thinking or saying bad things. It is so hard for me to talk, so I have almost 1,000 poems, and I have many diaries, and I have prose piling up in my binders. It is so hard to talk, and it is so hard to sing, but my head can sing, my head can dance, and say everything I want to. But it is so hard to open the mouth, to move the body, to actually become real in front of people. I am not real. I am not real like everyone else is real. We are all real, but I feel locked outside of an invisible bubble - it is shocking for me to try to fit in and not even fit in but to act like a human in front of others who were born 'normal'. I don't want to be normal or surface level, I just want to exist and not feel utterly humiliated. There is no winning: the price we pay for difference and uniqueness and to be interesting, is to feel different. to know the difference inside and out and have it rushing over your body and bones and muscles and thoughts and words and smiles and reactions and the songs in your head like painful water, calm and slow, constant and steady, rushing and shoving ligaments of the heart where they ought not to be - but they have no other place. It often comes out in tears.

But today I get to clean my room, and go to work, and enjoy life, and it doesn't really matter if I am destroyed inside 50% of the time, or whatever - I am mostly disappointed in myself for letting my phone addiction take hold and exist. Oh how I  long for a landline. At least  a flip phone? I wish I didn't have to have apps to be connected, it makes me feel so angry. I would rather be disconnected at this point. What would it change? 

Anyways, my sister signed a lease, so I will go ahead and cosign - 5 more days til I move myself outta here!!! :D

 

4:10pm

Good morning blog!!

Life is crazy but I am afraid that it's hard for me to recognize because I am so far advanced in my learning on how to be chill, confident, calm, and graceful; to freak out is no longer in me; to yell and shout at people who will not take my words to heart is not in me; to yell and shout at people who will take my words to heart is even less in me; to walk with anything less than the calm assurance, confidence in, and grace of God, is no longer in me.
After all my doubts, my intuition was correct, and I am being "thrown out". My aunt and uncle are splitting up and I am now applying to jobs as fast as I can. My lovely job is being put to an end, but about none of this I am upset. About all of this I feel virtually nothing. I feel no anger, no sadness, no anxiety, only calm and happiness. I guess I am glad to get back to being with my family, and I am not thrown by this whole situation, because I had kind of seen it coming, I just didn't think it would happen this fast 😅 so I am praying for good success and a place to live quickly, although thankfully I have lovely parents whose house I can stay at in the meantime. 

I have been seeing this girl on Instagram with a brand called K1dsaint, and the stuff she sells is really cool. It's really expensive, but I love the thought and meaning behind it and it's all handmade, so I will definitely be buying something from her as soon as I can save enough <3

The Em Beihold concert is so soon!!! My sister's gold dress to be a 'Shiny New Thing' is here and I hope all goes well. All I need now is to buy my own dress from the thrift store, which I plan on doing tomorrow.
I have sort of diagnosed myself with BPD - I thought I had it when I was 16 or so, watching a video from SBSK with Daniel Nepveux, who has schizoaffective disorder and BPD, (schizoaffective disorder really fascinates me, as it is something very difficult that can be overcome, and is what Adrian Borland suffered from leading up to his suicide in 1999). Anyway, I really related to some of the things that Mr. Nepveux said, although the specifics I don't remember at this moment, because it's been awhile since I watched the video. I remember writing to a friend about it, and I probably sounded really mental, and I honestly haven't really spoken to her a whole lot since, as she kind of gradually ended contact with me (I don't know if it was intentional or not). My mental issues have seemed to be the demise of many of my relationships and friendships and such. Since I do not have ocd, just signs, I believe that after years of the thought of BPD marinating in my head, and reading about it now, I am afraid that it may very  the issue that lies within my neuroworld.

There is not much more to say, as I am focusing on the road ahead, of dying pants and washing clothes and packing clothes and cleaning my room and packing my stuff and washing my bedding and waiting for the day when I will be able to go back home and start something new (again).

My aunt is really upset about all of this, but I am afraid I remain, unmoved. To me, that is a good thing. For once, my emotions are not rocking me like a ship on the waves. Not rocking me "back inside my heart" as Julee Cruise says. 

I am going to log off, and come back in probably a week or two <3

-SS

7:06am

Good m0rnninnngggg!!!!!!!

It's ACTUALLY morning this time XDXD

So I didn't do anything as I figured, because all I did on Monday was sew my pants and cry. And last night something crazy happened that I am not brave enough to share with the world. So I haven't done anything because I'm tired in the morning and I have an hour and a half ishh (more like an hour and 10 idk) to put away my laundry and pack my stuff. Tomorrow I'm picking up a Boston cream cake for my little brother and I don't think I will be able to buy the dress at the antique store for my Hot Goblin outfit, (nothing to do with the cake, rather I have been buying food at my job instead of packing stuff because my aunt doesn't really have tons of food, tbh, but I think maybe today I will at least bring some ramen or something). 

I need to put away my laundry like I said, and pack, so I'm going to sign off. 

I hope all of you have a wonderful day!!

-SS

1:30pm

Good afternoon : )

I have plans for today - plans are my friends - I call them on my day off and they help me take care of the day - here are the plans I have for today:

• devotions and bullet journal catch up
• pack!
• respond to letters
• finish crafts
• put away laundry and finish bedding
• take care of stains

Noowww, here is where I fudge up all the time - I never do anything in the correct order because I need HELP doing that, and I never have help. Soo, the obstacle for today, because when I choose to seek help it is always the biggest obstacle of the day - is to seek help. We will see how that mission turns out - if not very well, we will enlist the assistance of the pomodoro timers or whatever, y'know, set my watch for 30 minutes, 30 more, 30 more until everything is done. I don't really take breaks in between, like you're supposed to, it just take a couple seconds to reflect on how much I have gotten done and how much I still have to do

                                                       --- ☆★☆ -- Will be back --☆★☆---

8:31pm

Good evening, friends!

I accidentally took a nap today, but I woke up in the middle of it from my 1hr timer and since it was unfinished, I was buzzing inside my face for the next half hour. I am still tired, so I think I will go to bed very soon. I should stretch, I really should, but I am so tired inside that I think I will just go to bed and stretch in the morning. I don't work, although I do have to go in for some minor stuff online, around 11, so I won't be setting any alarms and will just sleep until I wake up naturally. 

I cleaned my room late last night and listened to some old music I haven't listened to in awhile and even though I was actually very sad and emotional, it was a good experience. Life is full of experiences that are good to have because it is better to feel and experience than to flow through life on auto pilot and have nothing to show for or remember anything by.

I had plans to get stuff done today but the sleepiness took over me, so I think I will give in now. If it doesn't happen that I am able to sleep right away, I'll throw on "Without Love" starring Katharine Hepburn and Spencer Tracy, but hopefully it does. 
Good night!

-SS